We women often think all men are confident, sure of themselves and have no problems getting women. Some men are like that, but many aren’t. I’ve met a lot of shy men throughout my life and almost all of them have had no idea how to meet women, or what to say if they do meet a woman they like. So, from a woman, here are my Top 5 Tips to help shy guys meet women.
1. Don’t try to meet women in bars. The most important tip I think there is. Just like women don’t usually want to meet a potential boyfriend in a bar, I wouldn’t recommend trying to meet a potential girlfriend in one. Bars are loud, smoky and usually full of people who are quite drunk. You’re not only usually going to find more of a Party Girl in a bar, but you’re also likely to be disappointed when you meet her in the daylight. In the bar, in her drunken stupor, you may have looked like somebody she wanted to get to know better. In daylight, things and people can look very different. There’s no point setting yourself up for disappointment before you even start so – avoid the bars!
2. Join a few clubs. At first, don’t even worry about trying to find a girlfriend. Just sign up for a few clubs or classes that YOU might find interesting. Walking clubs, movie nights, political organizations, dog walking groups, sports clubs, French classes, cooking classes, computer classes – they’re all places where, most importantly, you’ll probably make some new friends. They’re also places where you might meet an interesting woman and surprise surprise, when you do, she’ll probably have something in common with you.
3.When you do meet a woman you like, don’t think about her as a possible girlfriend. The secret to a great relationship is to be the best of friends. If you meet a woman you think you might like, get to know her first. Put it out of your head that she might be a potential girlfriend or wife. Instead, learn more about her, enjoy her company and have fun.
When you do this, the woman is less uncomfortable or threatened and she’ll let her guard down, and you won’t be worrying about trying to impress. That way, you’ll both be having a great time before you know it and who knows what might happen?
4. Be liked for yourself. Don’t try to be somebody you’re not. Don’t pretend you’re a bad boy, a jerk, a ladies man etc. if you’re not. Women almost always hate that but, even if she likes it, who wants someone to fall in love with somebody they’re not anyway? You can’t keep it up for the rest of your life, so why even start? Be yourself. Relax. Talk about the things you’re interested in, ask her questions about herself, find something you both have in common and discuss it. Then, even if she’s not ‘The One’, you still might have found someone you can talk to and she could turn out to be a great friend. 5. Just do it! When you meet a woman and you feel that overpowering fear coming on and you just know you’re not going to have the courage to talk to her. Just do it. Forget the fear, take a deep breath, walk right over and say “Hi”. Women usually like the confident, strong, outgoing guys. But here’s a secret – MOST GUYS ARE FAKING IT. So, you fake it too. Take a deep breath, relax your body, chin up, shoulders back and walk over there like you own the room. By the time you get there, she’ll think you do, and she’ll already be interested. This is what guys who are successful with women do. They all started by faking it and eventually they weren’t even faking it anymore. With these 5 quick tips, you too can meet some great women and can pluck up the courage to talk to any woman. There are women everywhere. Make it a point every day to talk to at least three women you don’t know, even if it’s just the woman behind the drycleaner’s counter. Before you know it, you’ll be just as relaxed as the next guy and having fun while you’re at it. Good luck!
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